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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I want to help my wife feel less stressed but I am not sure how to go about it[/quote]

Um. She wants to hire a babysitter. She's literally telling you how to go about it.[/quote]

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Babysitter a few hours during the week. And you take the kid out for an outing on the weekend. [/quote]
Did no one understand that is an expense that cannot be justified on the OP's current income. If the wife wants to work and earn the money for a babysitter, sure, but, sometimes we can't afford that really means that we can't afford that. [/quote]

They have an income of 90K in a low cost of living place, and OP describes their financial situation as "fine." They can cut down in other areas of spending and find $100 a week for babysitting.  I would not say this if their financial situation was precarious, but clearly this is an expense they can prioritize and cover.  And it will be so much cheaper than divorce (been there and I know!).[/quote]
I have a similar HHI and $ 100 per week is absolutely a big deal. If the DW doesn't want to care for the child herself, why can't she go back to work to pay for child care? Is there just some generic assumption here that women don't need to work?[/quote]

She IS working. She’s caring for a toddler full time, and after hours.

I WAH AND want her my child and I still can give props.

Daycare isn’t free. Nor should her division of the labour. A WOH spouse gets to go have lunch alone with coworkers and friends. A SAH should have the same benefit, even occasionally. No, they’re not “bringing in money”, but their work should not go without cost benefit recognition. [/quote]
If she has a babysitter, she isn't caring for the child. A SAH parent who takes care of their child is working. One that needs a babysitter while the spouse works is just unemployed.[/quote]

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