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Well, that was long and I've probably lost everyone...but I do have a question for the people dragging me for not working. Did you marry your spouse because they would add to your bottom line? Or did you marry them because you wanted a partner to share life experiences with and because you enjoy their companionship? Isn't it possible that my husband could appreciate me for the non-financial value I add to his life? Or simply because I don't go out and bring home a paycheck, or because I didn't birth his child he can't really respect or love me? That seems like a pretty dim view on marriage doesn't it? [/quote]

OP, don't worry about all these people dragging you for not working.  They're jealous.  All these people who say what do you all day, blah blah, you have no ambition, would never be working their tails off if they didn't need the money.

I'm in your situation except I'm not even married.  My days aren't boring at all because I'm not the type who needs to be go, go, go all the time to feel fulfilled. Why would I work when I have the freedom to do the things I enjoy for pleasure all day long instead? Just to be able to say I went to an office? They just have to pretend to be horrified to make themselves feel better about having to be a part of the rat race.   If they had the financial freedom they'd pick our lives too.  All the ambition/purpose stuff is just a justification because they don't have the choice of leisure so they pretend they work because they are motivated people.

For all of you who can't imagine what you'd do with your day just imagine retirement, just early.  You don't plan to work every day until you die, right?  Imagine you won the lottery, would you stay at your job? [/quote]

Wrong!!!! I could stay at home and do nothing if I wanted to. I took my time going to school, getting a PhD, looking for a job, etc. I am lucky to have enough family money where I did not NEED to work so I waited until I found something I really liked. I am married and have 2 kids so even if I did not work and kept my FT nanny, I would still have something to do and things to take care of (volunteering at the kids’ school, enriching activities for the weekend, etc), but I would feel useless and soooo bored. Unless you two (PP and OP) are at home studying, writing books, or becoming experts at something, I could never imagine living in your emptiness. Again, I work because I want to and not because I need to.[/quote]

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