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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Examples:

- There is a bin of dried beans with scoops and trucks in it.  DD takes the beans in her hands and drops them on the floor.  Host or I will tell her that the beans stay in the bin.  DD does it again.  Same correction.  DD does it again.  The other kids also did it but stopped after the first time they were corrected.

- DD took a scoop from another bin and threw it on the floor.  The host asked her to please pick it up and put it back.  DD didn't understand what she was asking her to do and the host sort of rolled her eyes.

These are two examples from two days ago.

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The problem isn't your kid, OP. Those examples aren't out of the realm of normal for a 2 year old.  (They don't call it terrible twos for nothing...)

But what is out of the realm of normal is your response.  The HOST shouldn't be the one correcting your DD or asking her to put things back.  YOU should be all over your daughter in those situations.  Beans land on the floor, YOU get on the ground with your DD and help her clean it up and tell her that the beans stay in the floor.  She does it again? YOU remove her from the beans for a little while.

[b]My guess is the host wasn't rolling her eyes at your DD for not understanding, she was rolling her eyes at you for not being the one to deal with your daughter[/b].[/quote]

1000 times this.  [/quote]

NP +1. The problem is that you're not correcting your misbehaving child. I have 4yo and 2yo boys. I know alllll about high energy. Real high energy, that is. They can run around a theme park all day long. Even my little one rides his bike for miles.[b] We literally have a climbing structure in our living room, even though it means we don't have space for other things, because my kids need to climb several times per day. But we also have tons of stuff like that bean table you're describing. And you know what, everything stays on the table. No matter what we're playing, they're expected to do it appropriately, all pieces are picked up and put back at the end, and look around on the floor to make sure you haven't forgotten any pieces. Yes, even when my kids are 2 years old (and before!). [/b]

Instead of coming on a forum to complain that an experienced mother isn't happy about your 2yo tearing up her house, why don't you either raise your child to behave appropriately or at least take her out of that playgroup and start one of your own for unruly - erm "high energy" - kids. Ideally at your own house.[/quote]

This. It's not about high energy or low energy. It's about the work (and I do mean WORK) parents put in at this developmental stage to help kids understand structures, expectations, etc.
It's not "no high energy play time!" it's about creating spaces for high energy play time, and also creating logical CONSISTENT rules about calmer play.

Their was an earlier PP who was making "no big deal" excuses about jumping on furniture. But in the vast majority of homes, jumping on furniture is not okay. You aren't doing your kid any favors by letting them get out their "high energy" by jumping on furniture in your house, even if you don't care about it. This PP I'm quoting has the right idea. Make a clear distinction between the types of things/places for that high energy playing and be equally clear about the places where that is not okay.

I remember when my kids were this age, I felt every waking moment was a series of gentle "course corrections" but if you don't put in the time and effort now, you have a real problem on your hands in a few years.[/quote]

Op wasn't letting her kid jump on furniture, get into the china hutch, running water in the bathroom, flushing cosmetics down the toilet, coloring on the bedroom walls....

Op's 2 year old was in a playroom playing with a bean table and dumping beans on the floor and then not listening when the host said "Please don't dump the beans on the floor".  All the other kids had also dumped beans on the floor.  But the other kids only did it once, whereas Op's 2 year old did it "X" number of times.  At some point a grown up in that room needed to either remove the child OR remove the toy.  And then move on......

Why on earth is this scenario being repeated over and over again???

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