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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]It's very typical of Asian parents to give huge amount of savings to their children. The flip side is that they expect total respect and obedience in return. It's a form of control. [/b]

At this point, OP sounds like he's trying to buy his son's good grace. Your son either loves you or he doesn't. Any relationship built on guilt or obligations is not a healthy one.[/quote]

You are half right - first half. [/quote]

Exactly! I'm Chinese and my parents have given us a very generous gift unconditionally. It's not a matter of control, it's a matter of how Asians view the tight knit family structure, which has its pros and cons. In China (and I know of some instances of Chinese immigrants here in the U.S.), it is absolutely normal for kids to live with their parents in the same quarters in perpetuity even when married. It's just how their culture views the familial relationship as if they are stuck to their hip.  Many Chinese parents put their children's well-being well ahead of their own empty nest lives too. [/quote]

The money always comes with strings attached, always. Of course the parents put their children's well-being ahead of their own, that's what they tell the children and themselves. But the children are only supposed to live life within narrow confines of what the parents find acceptable. B/c they give the children so much, they also feel entitled to tell the (adult) children how to live their lives. Asian parents are the most meddle-some parents. Just look at the OP's wife.[/quote]

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