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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not the pp you refer to.  Your friend's story sounds terrible.

I note that in the posts above there are many examples of trauma.  There is a link to a book on traumatic birth.  There are many support groups on line with thousands of women who have experienced traumatic births.  Please understand that we who have experienced them are trying to warn women that they are more common than we would all like to think so that they can make informed birth choices, and do thigns to prepare, like see a pelvic floor PT and have frank talks with doctors, get a late-term u/s,  etc.

Misplaced anger on the part of the PP?  I would not say so.  Again, people with injuries in this string have made it very clear how this has affected them.  It's hard.  You need to respect that.  It sounds as if you did for your friend.

We are tired of being marginalized.  And would like to see a little more sisterhood, frankly.  Because this is something that affects many more people than any of us would like to think.

All of the deep sexism in our society that the #metoo movement rises up against plays into these problems.  Why is it that in 2017, we can't figure out how the nerves and muscles of the pelvic floor work, and how to protect them?  Why is it shrouded in mystery?  Why can I get a hamstring avulsion fixed, but not a levator avulsion?  A muscle is a muscle, a tendon is a tendon.  Why is it that when I went for my follow up visit and told my provider that I had no labia on my right side anymore (the least of my worries, but one more example of being mutilated), I just got a shrug back.  Like this part of my body did not matter at all.  Why is it that when I suspected I had levator avulsion, three urogynecologists told me they would not do diagnostics unless I was ready to sign up for surgery?   Why did I not desrve to know and see the damage in an MRI, like if I had torn my roataor cuff or something?  Why was this part of my body less important?   Why is it that when I contacted three lawyers I never heard back?  Why is it that when I reached out to my seven sister alumnae network about this, every women told me they had also been unsuccessful at retaining a lawyer?  I never found anyone  - including a woman I met who had fistula - who manged to sue.  If something happens to your baby, yes, you can sue.   But if something happens to a woman, a mother - forget it.

I apologize to OP for going so far off topic.  I fervently hope I live to see the day when a woman's pelvic floor, which supports her sexuality, continence and core strength is treated every bit as seriously, thoroughly and carefully as any other part of our bodies.  If it were the case now, this string would not exist.[/quote]

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