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[quote=Anonymous]This all really comes down to poor communication. I agree it's a red flag, but not disqualifing like many folks on here are calling for.

Look: marriage is making an active choice to commit to one person. That's it. You are getting a small taste of marriage. It's a windy road, and always will be. If you truly love him and want to be with him, and you believe he feels the same, then try to work this out.

It's obvious he's insecure about this topic. The ultimatum is likely signals an inability to communicate this insecurity. It's not uncommon for men to fail at communication (women too, but men mostly) when it involves emotions.

Honestly, I think the sensitivity of the topic will likely require a third party to help talk through it. I would suggest paying for a therapist or social worker to assist. DCUM is a bad space for this. It's easy to go "feminist hulk" on someone on a keyboard. Less so when your fiancé is in your face. People are complex. Allow room for mistakes and growth. And be quick to listen and slow to judge.

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