Reply to Women, be honest, if your husband was fat

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Women, be honest, if your husband was fat"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH did get extremely fat. I could hardly stomach having sex with him. The wonderful thing about being a heterosexual female is that you can tell your partner "You are fat lose weight and then I'll start have sex with you again". My husband didn't like my message, but he wasn't mortally wounded by reality, so he lost 80lbs and looks even better than the day we married and we now have a healthy sex life. It's nice to be married to a desireable man who is motivated to be, and remain healthy. [/quote]

No way in hell a heterosexual man could say that to his wife without utterly crushing her spirit and confidence. [/quote]

Yup, which is exactly why I'm so glad I'm a heterosexual woman. I would never ever be able to deal with the hypersensitivities of most women. Of course there are exceptions on both sides.

My DH wanted sex, i wanted the fit man i first married back in order to want to have sex.  He took that seriously, double downed and i got a man hotter and harder than the one I married. He's not complaining now.[/quote]

Did he really not make the connection between his weight gain and your lack of desire until you told him to lose weight?[/quote]

Men are literal creatures. Just forthrightly tell them what you want in order to have more/better sex, they will be happy to oblige (within reason). He was probably happy with how she looked, so he never stopped to think "How do I look from her perspective?"

Again, this is a classic case of Men = Mars, Women = Venus. A man could never, ever, EVER say to his wife that she needs to lose weight in order to become more sexually attracted. The rules aren't fair, but that's life.[/quote]

So true. I'm still not comfortable telling him he's fat and I find it a turn off. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics