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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you don't HAVE to do anything. It it is fair to say you don't have the bandwidth to host large groups. But every time you chime in you sound to me kind of, well, bratty.  "MY daddy, I'll never care about these STRANGERS, whiiiiine."  Everyone is a stranger until you know them. His wife is his wife and he obviously wants the two of you to have a relationship.  Please consider opening your heart a bit.  You're life may be fuller for it. [/quote]

First, OP doesn't mind if the wife comes.  She minds that the wife's adult children and grandchildren may come.

And OP DOES know them, and she knows she doesn't enjoy their company.  I don't get the forcible closeness. It's perfectly fine not to want to have a relationship with someone.[/quote]

As someone who gained adult step siblings in my late 20s, I agree. The difference in my situation is we actually ARE close, we do a beach week every year all together, I look forward to going to my hometown in part because I get to see them and the kids (who are cousins, we don't use "step cousins" or "step grandparents" for the kids, they call us aunt and uncle, but they were all born after the grandparents married). We STILL don't do everything together when we are there- and my mom and step dad visit us pretty regularly and would never think of bringing everyone else along on these visits, those are more rare and planned as a special "trip"- its weird to think we would host EVERYONE just because the grandparents are coming for the weekend. [/quote]

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