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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel your pain. Attorney here and widower with two kids.

I feel pulled in so many directions between working (I work in-house, thankfully) and getting my two kids places. I've thrown money at the problem (afternoon sitter/driver), but there are still times they need me to be there and I have to figure out how to divide myself between kid 1's sport, kid's 2 recital, and my job. Oh, and then deal with the boring stuff that it takes to run a house hold. I've been doing this alone for 10 years and despite people saying that things will get easier, it doesn't. It's just a different kind of difficult.

It's hard, OP. I feel for you.[/quote]

I'm sorry PP. It's got to be hard going it alone.

I do think it's interesting in the OP bashing no one noticed that single parents are forced to deal with this all.the.time. It's a part of life. We can't be everywhere and everything at every moment possible. [/quote]

I think that most people are rational enough to appreciate the difference between a single parent who has to work more to support their family and simply cannot be in more than one place, and a two-income household where people are choosing to work harder than they need to at the expense of their family. That said, if PP were a single mom by choice with no dad in the picture, I suspect that would have gotten more snark than a sympathetic widower (no disrespect intended, PP, I was raised by a single parent so I've seen how hard it is to juggle everything). Also, I've found that single parents tend to be more likely to acknowledge they can't do everything and find a support network to help like a nanny/sitter, reaching out to other parents for carpools, etc. I see the kind of hand-wringing refusal to do that more from two-income families who are typically in a better financial position to do so but seem to insist on figuring out how to do it themselves.[/quote]

I just saw this PP and my observation is that the whole fighting ignores single parents because it's easier for women to tear each other down when they can do it from the construct of marriage.

It's telling and I think true that everyone is awful, everyone is going to screw up their kids, everyone feels guilty they don't have more time/money/energy/freedom/intellectual stimulation/professional success/whatever tiny hole that one carriers while they go through life in modern day America, and everyone will be judged for the choices they made.

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