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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very cool story!

I became interested in ancestry etc. a few years ago.  I had heard various versions of my mother's father (e.g., he was married to my Grandmother a long time ago, they were never married but together for a period of time etc.).  Well, my DNA test uncovered some fairly specific information about my mother's father (and some more family lies and changing versions of stories of my mother's conception).  I know that I have two living uncles (i.e., my mother's father's legitimate children).  I have hesitated to reach out to them..... maybe I should???  Their Dad/my grandfather was quite wealthy so they will probably first assume that I am an interloper.... but they can do the DNA test, too, if they so desire.....[/quote]

That is a difficult situation.  The way that I felt, I believe it was my children's right to know about this part of our family.  My mother did not want my children to know about the situation because she did not want to feel judged/shamed or whatever.  My children and I feel the same way, it was long ago, who cares?  There's no judgement.  I did tell her that these people are a part of my children's family and they have a right to choose whether they want to establish connections or not.  Just be prepared for whatever may come.  You may preface with the fact that you are not asking for anything, that you just want to know this part of your family.  Go into it with no expectations but that at least you will have had contact. I wish you the best.  Feel free to write again, I'd love to hear about your journey and cheer you on in whatever way you decide.[/quote]

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