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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I wish my husband made $64k.  He has worked for Wally World for almost 30 years and makes $39k (I make $65k).  He told me when we were dating that he was going to get a network manager job and started taking classes.  Then, after we married he finished the classes but never took the tests (don't think he ever intended to and took the classes to avoid working on Saturdays).  Already had a BS in business and marketing. I mentioned a job opening where I work (before we were married).  It was $5k over what he was making and we have paid insurance, spring break, 2 weeks at Christmas, vacations and snow days.  Well, he said he wasn't going to change unless he would make 6 figures, not just an extra $5k.  (truthful statement) Yes, he could afford stocks and 401k because he lived at home with mommy and daddy until they retired and moved.  WW has no pension.  BTW, husband is now 60.  He waited too long.

I think it was his intention to take the starter job and make it a career.  He compares being a "Sales Associate" and zoning the store with my stressful IT job all the time (of course his is more important).

It is hard to respect him.   [/quote]

It sounds like you married potential, instead of reality. Almost everyone (particularly young men) overestimates their future career trajectories. When a teenage, or twenty-something, male talks a good game about his career and ambition, it's basically like a child saying that when he grows up, he is going to be an astronaut-mountain-climbing-architect-rockstar-president. It's endearing, but don't take it seriously.

Ladies: don't marry potential. If what your boyfriend is doing today is not something you'd be happy with in the long-term, do not assume that things will improve. The reality is that most people burn out in their 30s, unless they are unusually ambitious.[/quote]

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