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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart![/quote]

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.[/quote]
OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop. [/quote]

Ugh.  Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice.  You have someone to talk to.  In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice.  If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole.  All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be.  But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone  and no one has brought your pain killers, yet.  Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.
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As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear![/quote]

Hospitals make lots of mistakes. My husband is a doctor and insists that someone else in there with the patient at all times. [/quote]

THIS!!!!! and Miss Nurse PP should know this if she is such a caring nurse. [b] I work for a large hospital system in this area [/b]and we always want patients to have someone with them their entire hospital stay if possible.  Many times the patient needs an advocate, no matter how minor the medical issue.  So MIL did nothing wrong.  [/quote]

NP here. Clearly you don't work as a nurse. Firstly, this simply isn't true. Point me in the direction of the 'bring a family member and cling to them for the duration of your stay' disclaimer on any hospital site or pamphlet. The 'have someone with you! Sure! That's great!' is something hospital admin tells people so they score their evaluations higher; it isn't because they think the staff will kill your loved one or that the patient actually needs someone. I can think of a few choice nicknames the nurses have for the husband of the lady with the 'married to a dr' degree.

Having said that- there are some fields where it's the norm to have someone there 24/7- maternity, oncology and palliative care for example. These days, caring for the patient IS caring for the patient's family- we now have double the load. There are some awesome helpful and calm family members out there. Wish that were the norm, because I actually do enjoy working with (helpful) families.[/quote]

Yeah, the point of being there for your family member is to ensure their comfort not to "save" them from the hospital staff.  The patient is where they need to be with skilled professionals looking out for them.  The family is there to provide companionship and moral support and to do the little things for them that make them more comfortable - like get them the cellphone in their purse, pour them a glass of water, etc.[/quote]

Not really. The hospital staff makes a lot of mistakes. Family members can help catch them. [/quote]

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