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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love having people over, and regularly host gatherings of all size.  But I invite people over because I enjoy their company and want to host.  I have no expectations that they'll do the same for me.

[b]IMO, inviting people with the expectation that you'll get some sort of payback is the height of entitlement and rudeness. [/b] Somebody should decline a dinner invitation because they can't (or don't want to) pay you back?  Sorry, that's ridiculous.  I invite people because I like their company - their ability/willingness to reciprocate has no bearing on whether I want them in my house next Friday.  If I found out that a friend declined a dinner invitation because they were worried about how to pay me back .... well, I don't know whether I'd laugh at them or cry.

Life is much more pleasant if you stop trying to keep score about everything.  Do what you want to do, invite people when you want to, and enjoy their company in the moment.[/quote]

Fair enough, but on the other hand, if you never reciprocate in any way--no invitations, no favors, nothing--then the relationship can feel pretty one-sided.  I don't care if you invite me to your house for dinner, but if I'm always the one extending the invitations, I'm going to start to wonder if you even like me all that much.  We've stopped inviting people who literally never reciprocate in any way, never initiate getting together, etc., and the relationship died because apparently we were the only ones invested in it.  [/quote]

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