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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think nobody knows what they will do until they are in a situation.  I used to say I would leave if my husband cheated and, lo and behold, I am still here even though he had a full-blown year-long affair.  I am here because I don't want to split time with the kids and disrupt their lives, and because I still love him and think it's worth at least trying.  So, even though I used to think I would be out of a marriage the minute I found about an affair, here I sit.

So, I say I wouldn't be able to stay if there was a baby from the affair, but who knows.  The idea of having to see the result of my husband's betrayal all of the time would seem to be overwhelming.  Of course it would not be the child's fault and that would make me feel awful too.  So, rationally, I think leaving once there is a constant reminder is a completely valid option.  But I wouldn't judge anyone either way.[/quote]

This. I like to think I'd never stay in this situation, but you never know until you're there.  I always thought I'd leave if DH cheated. He has a brief affair (a flirtation with one night of making out and one night of sex).  I would have thought I would have left, but I'm conflicted.  He's crying every day about what a mistake it was and I can't stop thinking about how devastated my kids will be if we divorce. The point being, it's easy to say you'd absolutely leave, but when you have to face it and weigh all factors, it's not so easy.
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