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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I decided to go with option 2.  Our kids are now 7 & 10 and so far it is the right decision.  We are aggressively saving for their college so they have more options than DH and I did in our 20s.  I personally think that will be more meaningful to them in the long term.  [/quote]

It won't.  They want their Mom now.  Not her money when they move out.  [/quote]

Do they also want their Dad now, not his money when they move out?[/quote]

Mine absolutely do. However, my husbands needs to work, therefore they get what they can ~ A loving caring Dad who WAH and a SAH mom.[b] The answer to the knowledge that kids DO want to be around their parents isn't "well don't give them access to either parent since they can't have full access to both parents". [/b]At least, it wasn't for us. [/quote]

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I just love that circular, illogical argument seen often here on DCUM.  [/quote]

I have never, not once, read on DCUM the argument that if the father doesn't also stay home, then the mother shouldn't stay home either. Never. Not once.[/quote]

Are you kidding?  We see this all the time.  Someone says they SAH because it's best for their family.   Then someone predictably and defensively responds that in *their* family, both parents wanted "equal" amounts of time with their kids and so they decided for both parents to work so they'd each be able to spend exactly the same amount of time with their kids.  Which makes zero sense when they could have one parent spend a lot of time with them instead, giving the working parent far more quality time with the kids than they'd have with two working parents; all the errands and chores are completed by the time working parent gets home, as well as free weekends without scrambling around, trying to get everything done.  That doesn't leave quality time for anyone.

So yes, this circular reasoning is seen all the time here on DCUM.  It's a result of the defensive bean counting mentality in which all things must be split 50/50, even when it makes no sense and results in less quality time for everyone.  [/quote]

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