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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=taketothebank][quote]Exactly my thoughts. What a horrible way to label children. They are people, with hearts and feelings. How dare you call them baggage!!!! What a jerk.
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[quote]Call them whatever you want,[/quote]

How about calling them children?  The other posters are correct.  Calling children baggage is horrible.[/quote]

"Baggage" is shorthand for "a huge, multi-year emotional and financial burden that you should think very carefully before you assume and needn't feel bad if you'd rather not do so".

Calling them "children" in an effort to sugar-coat this fact and to make people feel bad if they don't want to assume that burden is stupid and mendacious.[/quote]

+10000. All the feigned outrage by these sheltered bitches. Im sure none of whom have actually been divorced with multiple kids and so couldnt possibly understand how there little snowflakes could be thought of as anything but a snowflake by anyone. Get divorced and see what the dating pool is for a 40's-50's women with 3 Kids. Why would any established man date you old horses when he could date a younger, hotter women with no kids, ie, no (gasp) baggage??[/quote]

Why do you think kids magically stop being "baggage" if they are the man's kids? Why would a younger, hotter woman want a man with baggage?[/quote]

Many don't, you are absolutely right. And that's a tough pill to swallow. But its the reality of the situation. My point is that it sucks to be divorced with 3 kids - not saying you shouldnt do it, not saying there are not success stories, just saying it sucks and its enormously painful. And the dating pool for both men and women in that situation is far smaller than for those who have no kids or maybe have 1 kid bc a lot of people (more men than women) will not date a person in that situation. Maybe bc men assume that its the women who will actually be the raising the kids (have no time for relationship) and the ex wont be in the pic that much. People with no kids who are dating generally think of people who have kids who are dating as having baggage - not all of them and they may not put it that way, but in their minds that is what most of them think - the kids, the ex = baggage. Its hurtful when you first hear it, but its the reality of the situation. [/quote]

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