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Pp here. Frankly it isn't about getting rich. [b]I want to get full credit[/b] for the recipes that I've taken time to create. I don't see what's so wrong with that. I don't expect to get rich off of anything. I probably should've gone to culinary school to be a chef because I'm that serious about food. It's art to make something from scratch into a scrumptious and beautiful dish that people enjoy. [/quote]

Why? Is this the main thing in your life you're proud of? Do people not deserve to eat something they like unless they're aware of the food's lineage? When you serve it, do you give credit for everyone whose work contributed to it? "Well, I had something like this at Restaurant X in Cambridge, and then I saw something similar in the New York Times, only without the pecans, and then I remembered Shirley Corriher talking about the difference blanching makes . . . "

No cook is an island.[/quote]

No, I'm proud of many things, as I mentioned before, just because someone withholds a recipe it doesn't mean that their self worth is tied up in it or that it is their biggest accomplishment. I would say passing the bar is mine, but that doesn't prohibit me from being tight handed with my favorite cookie recipe or my best pie. Restaurants do this all of the time. Who creates those dishes, people do. [/quote]

You're not a restaurant or a chef, you're an attorney who, at best, is going to end up self-publishing a cookbook, an item for which there is a shrinking market because anyone can go online and get a recipe for anything.  Unless you're an established household name or the only person in a really niche area that serves people who can't navigate Food Network or AllRecipes.com, there is no money in this and publishing would mostly likely be just a vanity expense.  You'd make more money off a food-porn blog like Pioneer Woman.  You're certainly not obligated to share, but, in this day and age, it comes across as a really weird thing to get proprietary.  Food is amazing and fun and taking it so seriously that you think your recipes are a top secret kills the joy in preparing and eating it.[/quote]

Please reread what I wrote above, we are just going around in circles. It's fine. We will never convince me that I'm wrong. I love the idea above to make a family cookbook by the way. It's not about money.

Pp here. Frankly it isn't about getting rich. I want to get full credit for the recipes that I've taken time to create. I don't see what's so wrong with that. I don't expect to get rich off of anything. I probably should've gone to culinary school to be a chef because I'm that serious about food. It's art to make something from scratch into a scrumptious and beautiful dish that people enjoy.[/quote]

I can read.  I still think that wanting "full credit" for a recipe to the point you don't want to share it with others because someone might not recognize that you are the artiste [b]that brought them that marvelous work of art on a plate is weird and petty. [/b] You're not trying to make money, so the only point of secrecy is so no you get "credit"?  Sorry you missed your calling with culinary school, but not sharing because you're trying to be some sort of culinary glory hog is worse, to me, than people who think they're giving away family secrets.[/quote]

New poster on this thread, and I disagree. It isn't weird and petty. It's her preference and her right.  Would you expect free art from an artist?  free lessons or performances from a musician?  It isn't any different than wanting free recipes from someone.

You, on the other hand, are entitled.  Yuck.

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Yuck?  What are you, five?

[i]Demanding [/i]things of your host would be entitled; asking is not.  I guess I just have generous family and friends who take being asked for a recipe (or a knitting pattern or advice on how they managed to get a home project to turn out so nicely) as a compliment and love to take a moment to talk about how many times they had to unravel that cable pattern to get it right or the magic secret to refinishing the antique they've been working on for a month.  Some people actually see this as being interested in them and a pleasant conversation, even.  And bless my wonderful mother-in-law who has so patiently walked me through more than one family recipe over the years for something my husband loves to eat because his enjoyment is more important to her than being the [i]only [/i]person who can fix it for him.  (I have a friend whose MIL won't share family recipes with her or her husband because she has to have something she can do for her son that my friend can't.  Don't be that MIL.)

And your analogies suck.  Presumably, if Chef Artiste, JD has invited guests over for a meal, she is giving her "art" away for free.  Do you charge people for dinner when you invite them over?  I hope not, that would be yucky.  My cousin, the concert pianist, has friends over and is known to bust out a tune or two [i]without charging them [/i]as well.  Hell, he gave one of my sister's kids a [i]free [/i]copy a piano exercise he wrote when he found out the kid had started lessons - I hope he wrote his name on it in big letters so he gets [i]full credit [/i]for that etude sitting in his cousin's piano bench.   Because we're talking about friends and family, not a bunch of strangers.  If you can't be gracious with your friends and family, then I do find you weird and petty and suspect you're rather tiresome to be around.[/quote]

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