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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Who's in there? 
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Hey, it's me.

[b]What's going on? 
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I'm making a snack.

[b]What do you need? 
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Food. I'm hungry. Don't worry though, I'm making it myself.

[b]Are you eating again?
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Of course, I haven't eaten since 9am. Why aren't you eating? Should I be worried about you? Do you have an eating disorder? I know someone with an eating disorder and she didn't eat for 8 hours at a time either... maybe I could ask for a recommendation for an eating disorder therapist? I'm sure she'd know someone good around here... (etc)

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I just can't take the judgment/scrutiny.[/b]

She's the one with an issue. Not you. Put the judgement back on her.

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This is the right approach, minus the accusations that she has an eating disorder. (Although those were hilarious). Bring food, put it in the kitchen, eat it. Act like it is normal, do not apologize, answer her questions cheerfully and matter-of-factly. You say you "can't take" the judgement and scrutiny, but you need to! Just let it roll right off you. If she says "the kitchen is closed" at 7 pm, just say, "oh, I always eat a bit of ice-cream before bed, but don't worry, I'll clean up!" If she acts appalled, you can just say, "Well, we all have our little habits. Thanks for understanding!" and move on.

[b]My mother has always been controlling around food, her own and others, and obsessed with everyone's weight[/b]. It's really sad and not something I want my kids to have to deal with. [b]I notice, now, that when I got to their house and bring extra food, or we get take-out and bring it home, my father pounces on it like a hungry tiger that's just spotted prey[/b].
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That made me really sad for your father.   :cry: [/quote]

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