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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are a drama llama.  All this about your DH choosing them, now loving your husband less, he loves your kids less, how can a marriage survive...ugh.  You are awful.  Also you told your BIL the one time you went that you never wanted to come again...guess he took you at your word.[/quote]

Oh FFS, shut up.  This sound pretty awful for OP.  It  sounds like the BIL is a huge dick and so is his wife.  Who the hell excludes a sibling's spouse from a family event like this?  The ILs seem pretty messed up too if they say some bullshit about flying out to LA for the Bar Mitzvah would cost too much.  I know families who have had to fly out to Israel b/c the Jersey scene wasn't good enough for their kids.

It's just bizarre that the BIL would act so immaturely.  I don't care for my husband's brothers' long term girlfriend, but it was a given she was coming to our wedding and our kids' big birthday parties, etc.  (if she chose to skip, I would have cared less though). Same with my brother's wife.  I wasn't crazy about her either, but I would never have thought to not invite her.  Married couples are pretty much invited together to most of these events.

I could understand how it's got to be hard for OP to have everyone ditch her and leave her home with the baby sitter and kids.  If you have out of town guests, how is ok to leave one adult at home and go out and meet your in town friends.  None of this makes any sense.

OP, I don't have any solution for you (trust me my ILs are kind of like this too), but we generally don't engage too much with them, in general.[/quote]

NP, but I think OP kind of made her own bed.  You can only cry victim for so long (everyone else is to blame for all of this?  really?).  I'm not saying that OP's husband and the in-laws couldn't have handled it better, but OP sounds like a total drama queen.  I'm not sure I'd want her at my kid's special event either.[/quote]

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