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[quote=Anonymous]Ugh - these people who think they single parents (well - single mothers mostly) should give up their own personal fulfillment after divorce.  There aren't enough eyeroll emojis to indicate how off base they are.

It's about balance.  I don't think you should break if off with your fiance.  From your description, the boys are fine with him as long as the word marriage come up.  That's good.  My guess is that the boys understand that once you get married, the possibility of you and DH is totally gone -- and they want to hang on to the hope.  They don't want to admit that a remarriage is not going to happen.  There's absolutely no sense in not marrying your fiance because your kids want to hang on to a hope that has no chance of coming to fruition.  I think that's unhealthy for them.

I think you start with family and individual counseling and some frank conversations with the older one on how you and ex-DH are not getting back together. Ever.

Also, if you have primary custody and can claim head of household -- you might want to take a good look at your tax burden should you get married.  That alone might encourage you to wait until you can't claim them any more.[/quote]

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