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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Another person who would consider divorce.

If my husband watched me go through what I've been through with pregnancy and didn't volunteer for this when we decided we were done having children I don't even know what I would do. It would be so grossly inconsiderate and unfair.

You seem pretty a-ok with it, more mildly annoyed than viscerally angry OP.  Its your life but I'd value myself more than you seem to. This is like...a character flaw which means he values his own body SIGNIFICANTLY more than yours (because the risks in this case are so lopsided). This would be a marriage risking fight for me. [/quote]

His body, his choice, amirite?[/quote]

Yes of course, and there are consequences and contexts to choices. I'm not saying he should be legally compelled to get his tubes tied. I believe there are also pretty severe consequences when a woman unilaterally chooses to get an abortion while in a relationship with a man without discussing it with him and taking his feelings into account.

The thing with this is that his choices and my choices have collectively led to my body taking on a significant strain in both the having and preventing of having children (via pregnancy, birth, birth control pills etc). He will have enjoyed the consequences of my body bearing those burdens for many many years. I believe it would be grossly unfair to refuse to take on [b]a minor 48 hour burden[/b] to help me, his partner in life, not have to take further strain on my own body, which will have done more than its share in our family planning efforts to that point.[/quote]

Tubal ligation is a minor outpatient procedure. Go get it done. Since you're not opposed to "minor 48 hour burdens" this should be no problem for you.[/quote]

This is a false premise. Tubal ligation requires general anesthesia and is essentially abdominal surgery. And I haven't been opposed to minor 48 hour burdens when I was recovering from c-sections for two weeks, going through pregnancies for nine months, or enduring the side effects of birth control for decades.

This is like if I went to the grocery store and had 100 bags of groceries in the car and I unloaded 99 of them and then asked my husband to unload the last bag. And he looked at me and said I was unbelieveably selfish for asking him to take on that burden. It is unfair, plain and simple.[/quote]

Nope. You can get tubal ligation with a spinal anesthetic. Takes 30 minutes. You go home the same day.

Compared to vasectomy, this is 50 bags and 50 bags.[/quote]

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