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[quote=Anonymous]Lawyer PP here. I would encourage that a settlement agreement establish a three-year wait because the more stable spouse can easily wave the remaining time, but you cannot easily go back and amend the settlement to make the time period longer.

If your ex takes up with a druggie, stripper, somebody with a criminal history, or someone who is otherwise undesirable, you are going to want to have as much time as possible before the person enters your kids' lives. If, however, your ex takes up with a lovely person, you can always later agree in writing that that particular person can meet your kids sooner than three years.

My ex made me wait all three years before my now DH met my kids. He was jealous and hoped we would break up. I explained to now DH what was going on and he understood. After a year of dating, I told my kids that I was dating a very nice man, but that I wanted to make sure he was the right guy to be in their lives before they met him. I show them photos of him and talked about our dates. A couple of months after the three-year mark, they met him at a lovely dinner, he brought them gifts he picked out based on what I had told him about them, and we all went from there. As a second-time bride, I was in no hurry to get married again and we got married after almost 6 years together.[/quote]

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