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I'm the poster you're quoting and I'm not the OP.  I just happen to disagree with the hordes of comments telling her to get over it and become best friends with the people she doesn't like.  Look, not everyone is meant to have personal chemistry.  She doesn't like that side of the family.  That's plain to see.  She doesn't have to! Sure, it's better for her to stop feeling the anger and resentment from the past, but that doesn't have to end with them becoming best buddies.  She doesn't like them.  She has the right not to like them, and to minimize the presence of people she doesn't like in her life.  It's simple. Yes she should let it go, but she can let THEM go as well. [/quote]

I'm the person you quoted above & I actually happen to agree with you.

My main concern is that she let's go of the animosity, resentment & anger, for her own well being.

She doesn't have to love them or even like them, but she'll see by letting go of the anger, she'll be able to move on with with her OWN life... and by her own admission, she hasn't been able to.

Btw, the spouses of the siblings had nothing to do with what she's so upset about, it happened way before they even met their spouses, yet OP is still allowing her anger to affect her relationships with the spouses & children of the siblings. 
They are innocent victims...collateral damage & they probably haven't got a clue why she hates them so much, which is really sad for them.

She can have a wonderful relationship with the siblings wives & never have anything to do with the siblings.
I dont particularly like my BIL, he's a disgusting pig.
However, I adore his wife & daughters & when we're together, I act like he's totally invisible.

My disgusted feelings towards him will never affect my feelings towards them... ever.

The OP's anger is clouding all of her relationships on that side, even her innocent nieces & nephews & that's not healthy, nor fair... not just for them, but for her too.
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