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I am the PP that is a team coordinator (and not the previous PP, by the way).  Look.  No one (at least not me, and I'm sure many other volunteer snack moms) is trying to force their will on anyone.  Rather, they THINK they are doing the team a service, because they THINK that this is what the team wants.  I really can't imagine any snack mom pitching a hissy fit if the majority of parents were to agree on not having a snack.  (And I've had 3 kids on every kind of team from rec to travel).  I'm betting that "pinterest mom" who sent out a snack signup when some other mom didn't, did so because she figured the other mom was overwhelmed and maybe didn't have the time or desire to do it.  I'm sure if pinterest mom knew that most of the parents did NOT want to participate, that this mom would not bother.  She'd just use her pinterest skills to create a nice end of year party or something, or maybe bring a fun treat every once in awhile herself if baking is her thing.  Point is, if you feel this strongly about it.....OPEN YOUR MOUTH (somewhere other than DCUM) AND SHOW THAT THE MAJORITY IS BEHIND YOU.  Otherwise, as the other PP said, it's time to shut it and be thankful you have parents trying their best (right or wrong) for the kids.[/quote]

I genuinely believe that both you and pinterest mom believe that the majority want snacks and that you are doing the best for the kids.  And that's awesome.  But what makes you think that that's what the team wants?  Did people say that they wanted it?  Was there a clamoring at practice for group snacks?  Why do you THINK that's what the team wants?  
Did you (or coach or team coordinator or pinterest mom) say to the other parents:  What do you guys think, should we do a group snack every game or just have individuals handle their own things?  If you did, and most people said group snacks are fun, then awesome.  Thank you for helping oyur team.  If you just *assumed* that people wanted a group snack and took it upon on yourself, then yes, you're trying to force your will on people.[/quote]

At the start of every rec season, there is usually an informal gathering of parents after the first practice where the coach hands out a printout of the game schedule, and talks about how he or she is looking for another parent to potentially help out at practices or games, and communicates any other team information and takes questions.  It is usually at this point that the coach also says they are looking for a parent to help coordinate the team snacks and parties, etc.  It is at this point that PARENTS should speak up if they don't want snacks (or any other concerns they may have about the team).  It's not the duty of the volunteer to take a vote on things that the coach has requested.

Really, it's no different than the role (that this same parent also usually takes on) in collecting money for the end of season coach gift (which I honestly find way more awkward than simply sending out a snack sign-up).  Both things (snacks and gift money) are COMPLETELY VOLUNTARY.  Yes, you probably feel awkward if you don't sign up or contribute.  But honestly, there are only 8 games in a season and usually 12 families on a team, so already there are going to be 4 families that don't sign up for snacks.  And there are usually at least 25% of parents that don't contribute to a coach gift for one reason or another.  My kids are on plenty of teams where I am not the coordinator, and there are seasons where I miss the snack sign-up or I accidentally miss contributing to the coach gift.  It's no big deal, I don't feel "put upon", I don't feel forced into anything or like I'm viewed as a jerk.  Honestly, I don't care either way about snacks.  It's weird to me that you do.  But again, if you think I'm the odd one out and most people hate snacks, don't blame others, just speak up.[/quote]

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