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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It seems that excellent GPA and SAT is no longer enough. EC activities have to be supplemented with trips to teach underprivileged children in 3rd world countries.  And you have to be able to afford the said trips to foreign countries.  You have to know people to get internships and recommendations.   All this in HS.

I just feel that I have failed my kids because this is just so overwhelming. [/quote]

I'm the person whose kid needs between 3-5 classes before they could technically take the MCATS, whose kid was rejected from alma maters, and who is Yale Medical School legacy and whose kid can't get into a college with good stats:

This is my DC's mountain. DC, who is affluent, tutored friends who are more affluent, who got into fantastic schools. DC went throughout school with great kids, albeit nowhere near the same academic level, who are going to top notch schools.

You didn't fail your kid: [b]the admissions process screwed our kids[/b]. It can't continue. In my old life I used to get federal funding for one of the schools - and others - my DC was rejected from. I was in love with one university because of the personal pride I took in the future renewal of the area and the coalition I was part of. Did I tell the admissions people this? No.

So, my advice is to use every connection you have to make the decision easy for the admissions team. My DC heard her entire life how I worked from the age of 7 and she wanted to it by herself. My family was 30 years from shirt sleeves (me) to shirt sleeves (daughter). Not the "American Dream."[/quote]

So, let me guess, you DC comes from an UMC family and was given all the advantages that entails, and now she has lost the "American Dream" b/c HYPS or the like rejected her?  There are literally 4,000 institutions of higher education out there. There is one for your DC.  If s/he applied only to those with very low admit rates, and you were pushing that, then yes that is on you.  Oh, well, I guess there is a gap year/community college in the offing.  Nothing wrong with that.  [/quote]

No HYPS nor the like except for one. And that one DC visited and I couldn't afford as a kid. It was one I assisted secure funding for, had intimate knowledge of the university and community and had a sterling letter of recommendation from alumni/friend who told DC not to expect to get in. That letter and meeting was then followed by another visit by another prominent alumni. For the last and final time: DC applied to schools within reach with 1 reach. DC only applied to lower 25% after DC was rejected from the 12 in the upper 75%. And yes The American Dream is dead for me.[/quote]

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