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A good catch:

- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+

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I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.

You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.

Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.

We'll be waiting.[/quote]

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I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.

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If everyone you know is married to guy's with a similar profile and you're not that means you likely are the one that is lacking.  I've seen this a couple of my wife's friends.  Similar circle.  All the husbands are of a similar status level but the couple perpetual single girlfriends will not be set up with anyone they see as "lesser" than their friends husbands.  Here's the honest truth from a 30's guy that fits your profile, for the both of those friends of my wife I'd happily go out for drinks and would love to have had a go in bed with them in my single days but I can't imagine dating them seriously.  Their personality precludes it.

Your post reminds me of them immensely.  I'd never take the chance on a ltr with someone that categorizes me on requirements like that.  Especially on 150k salary at a mid career point.  I'd never trust she liked me for me, or that she wasn't ultimately after my trust funds.  Would she even stick around if experienced hardship, as you know the wedding vows state you're supposed to?   And the guys who are cool with a girl who significantly values their money/income; bad news.  They're going for a much younger model vehicle than you.  Doesn't matter how fit you are or how much you lift.

As a fellow philosophy major I think you've lost your focus.  You're requirements look incredibly superficial on paper.  If was single, I'd dig a hot philosophy major who I could bond with over common interests.  You being in your 30's wouldn't be an issue.  I met my wife when she turned 30 and I chose her over a multitude of younger women I was casually dating at the time.    Stop focusing on a checklist and start looking for the Good again.  Figure out the ethical qualities you want in a partner and go for that.  And imagine the type of person your dream partner would want to date and start improving yourself towards that.

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Lots of philosophy majors around here.   :wink:   I get your point and I think you make some good recs for OP, but I also don't think her "standards" are unreasonable.  If she lives in the DC area, wanting a partner who makes $150k is certainly not "gold digging," as you'll be living a comfortable but not extravagant life.  It's high enough that they will be able to afford a mortgage in the area.  Less, and you're looking at high-rise condos (which are a bad investment) or perpetual renting instead of the modest, older houses that they'll be able to afford on $200k.

Anyone who wants to jump on me for being okay with the OP being able to afford a house with her prospective husbands, flame away.  I don't think she is being unreasonable.  I also don't think this salary number rules out 95% of men as some have said in this thread.  Maybe that percentage is right for the whole country, but not in this area.  I may be wrong about this.
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If she had said 75-100k I would have given her lots more leeway on the gold digger angle.  A household income of that range in combination with hers and decent monetary habits would easily put you in the category of being able to afford a 500k home.   There are still a lot of great starter homes in the DMV for that price.  100k downpayment could be made easy in 3 years with good saving habits and that's assuming that neither partner already has savings.  At that point with current rates your payment would only be 1900, much less than rent for a lot these new apartments.

One of my issues with her is that she's looking for a fairytale prince wanting someone who makes 150k a year and isn't a workaholic.  That's like planning for retirement by playing the lottery.  Sure there's a chance that you land that but its so rare it's the exception rather than the rule.  People who make 150k, even in this city work.  And work a lot and work hard.   If she wants the lifestyle that comes with 150k salary thats fine but it's hurting her dating life by putting that on her imaginary future spouse instead of leveraging her own career to get her to that salary.

Also I don't like cats so that might have factored in also.  My dogs just wouldn't take the addition of a feline sibling lightly.[/quote]

I'm not sure I get this - she wants the guy to also have hobbies and interests and be nice.  Not sure how that is controversial.

500k gets you squat near DC these days.  Really.  Terrible prospects.  You need 600k to get into a modest shack in a decent school district.  There's your extra 50k right there.[/quote]

500k will still net you a nice house in Springfield or fairfax with decent school districts.  Or buy a fixerupper in a trending neighborhood Trinidad if you're not worried about kids/school district which she wouldn't be now, as a single girl.  The hobbies and being nice wasn't the issue I pointed out.  The salary was.  150k a year men in the DMV in their 30s  are rare and more likely looking for someone younger than her.  If the 150k is most important to her she could easily find that by upping her age bracket to a guy in his 40s.  I've seen that among friends a lot and then she would still be a hot commodity at 30.  But guys earning that amount in their 30s aren't settling down with her type, I know I'm in that group as are many of my friends.[/quote]

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