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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is 13.  I am ok with collecting phones as well as not collecting phones.

If you had asked me a couple years ago, I would have said NO to collecting the phones and given lots of reasons why similar to the ones on this thread.

But with all things, once you have had more experience, your opinion changes.

In terms of social media, my own child is cautious about what she posts but other girls (and boys are not). Embarrassing photos happen and kids do think it's funny to post them at times.  They are young and just lack a filter.  Chaperoning a few events for my DD's and her friends, I realize I have forgot what stupid stuff kids find  funny when you are 12 and 13.

There are plenty of kids with finsta accounts or spam accounts and sometimes your kid won't have access to those accounts so they don't even know what is being posted about them until it's too late.  Add in that not all kids in the early teen years have all the same social media accounts. Half of the kids seem to have snap chat and half don't.

In terms of trying to reach me and if anything happened in the middle of the night, I realize that it is going to be the rare kid who has their wits about them if something really bad happens in the middle of the night to contact their parents right away. Most kids in a dark, unknown house if something bad happens, they would be too frightened and unnerved to do anything except wait until morning. I have had some of my DD's friends who are super outgoing and know our home well be too scared to even get up in the middle of the night and walk a few feet to the bathroom bc it's dark and they just are nervous about not being at home. They are afraid of turning on lights, flushing the toilet, turning on the sink and waking up people in the house, etc.

So in short, I tell my child to go along with the house rules.

At our house, I ask that they put their phones in the kitchen on our charger stand to charge for the night. We have no house phone but we do have a house cell phone that we keep in our upstairs hallway on an easily accessible table that has call and text capability. [/quote]

I'm in agreement with all of this.  Add to this that I have boys, and they seem (to me, with no daughters) even more likely to post embarrassing photos in the name of humor. They can "talk the talk" about cyber-bullying and what is/is not appropriate to post after being educated at school and at home, but I find in practice tweens/teens really have little appreciation for these matters in the heat of the moment when with friends. Not saying that lack of appreciation has changed since I was a teen, but the ability to disclose things instantly, publicly and permantently certainly has.[/quote]

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