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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the OP from another sexless marriage thread (husband stopped having sex).

It's awful but one can survive anything. My life is missing something immensely important. I'm now struggling to see if I can reconcile the vows o took and my child's needs with the loss I have endured and if I can get through this forever.

One thing to understand is that in some cases it won't get better. Therapy, meds, honest communication, supportive behavior (I nurture in many ways and don't outright criticize even when talking about this issue) will not help everyone. Some people don't want it to be fixed. Others become too beaten down to know how to fix it anymore - which could be me.

Posters who say these marriages are severely lacking are correct. However, they're like other flawed marriages in some ways- like people who fight or who resent one another because of child care or housekeeping or in laws. The difference for us is it stops being about painful episodes and arguments and fades to numbness. Like an amputation almost. Like you know something vital is gone but you get around anyway because you have to.

Unlike many on this board I think an affair is understandable in this situation. I don't know if I ever will but I'm thinking it would be nice in some ways. [/quote]

Wow, another DW here. +100000000. Could not have said it better myself.  I did have a brief affair but realized that wasn't the answer for me.  So now I enjoy the family time that I have with DH and our two elementary school aged DCs and am thankful for our other good fortunes. But, it hurts to lack sex and intimacy.[/quote]

Medical issue, and I've never strayed but it's hard, especially as I've never figured out how to explain this to our son. [/quote]

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