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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. She announced her notice. They actually want her to stay but she's not budging. [/quote]

I am sorry your wife is so selfish and doesn't think such major decisions should be made together.  This sounds like the result of too many Oprah Winfrey shows where "I" come first and "I" have to do what makes me happy.  Quite frankly I think the problem is that so many people lack gratitude for what they have and what is good in their lives and just want more of something, in your wife's case, more of me, me, me and the hell with the rest. Well, she is going to find out that the world just isn't sunshine and flowers no matter in which job or situation she ends.[/quote]

Good grief, your soapbox is just annoying. I was harassed for over a year at a job. I quit with my husband's permission, but I could not have held out any longer. Sometimes work places become unbearably toxic.
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I don't understand your post at all.  First of all, wife doesn't need husband's permission to quit or do anything, but certainly both spouses should talk about life changing and significant decisions. Most likely this OP would have supported his wife's decision if she talked to him about it. You sound like an insecure and weak person, first you were harassed and then you quit with your husband's permission?  Really?  What country/century are you from?[/quote]

NP here. You seem to be jumping to conclusions that have no basis from what the PP posted.  Maybe you haven't experienced it, but some work situations can get brutally harsh.  Not all bosses or co-workers are nice, caring and honest people.  Some are selfish, cold, calculating and cruel bullies.  It can get to a point where they can threaten one's professional reputation.  OP's wife may have felt backed into a corner and wanted to minimize the impact to her reputation, and her ability to get another job.  We don't know the details in this situation yet.[/quote]

The details are irrelevant.

NO ONE is saying that if the situation were truly toxic that she shouldn't leave. What people are saying is that she should have had a conversation with her DH about wanting to leave so that they could formulate a plan together - an exit strategy - that doesn't put the FAMILY in a bad place.

Who knows - maybe the DH would have demanded she leave the job upon hearing about the work conditions. Unfortunately, the DH doesn't even have the choice because DW just unilaterally decided that she was going to quit - who cares about healthcare for their child and the income... For some families, that could destroy them.[/quote]

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