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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I guess another way to ask is do you have regret when the child reaches bar mitzvah or are you 100% in on the decision?  Did you ever doubt the decision at any point along the way?  Do they ever question why you are taking them to classes and teaching something but you don't have the same beliefs?  When they are younger, do they wonder if you are teaching them this faith and it is right for them, why you don't convert?[/quote]

OP, are you the mom? Are you practicing?

Jewish or Christian, doesn't the faith of the children usually follow mom's faith?  As a mother I would not want that separation between my faith and tradition and my children's faith training and traditions.

If you are asking these questions, it sounds as if you have connections to your faith and faith traditions and are not on board with raising your hypothetical children in another faith.[/quote]

I am heading towards marriage and I really would like to hear what it is like for Christian moms that are raising jewish kids.  [/quote]

Would you be willing to convert? 
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No I don't want to convert and I am not being asked to convert. I am just being asked if I would be willing[b] to have our future children raised Jewish[/b].  [/quote]

I would dig deeper - what does "have our future children raised Jewish" mean?

Who will do what is necessary for the children to be raised as Jewish?

What will your role, as the non-Jewish parent, be?  What will it not be?

Super-important questions.[/quote]

Great questions to address if I say yes I am will to raise them Jewish.  This something think I can say yes to right now but was wondering if others that were in my position had any regret later on.  [/quote]

No here.I said yes and regretted it later on. When the bar mitzbah time came I began having many second thoughts and doubts - because it is a huge commitment for someone who is not Jewish. A lot of resentment toward my husband who left all of the "raising" to me. I wish I would have asked these questions in the first place. As other pp's have said, the religious training is often left to the mother. I do not think it is reasonable for a non-Jewish mother to be responsible for all of this.  The father needs to be more involved or married to a Jewish woman. 
Op unless you want to be Jewish (that is, convert and immerse yourself in Jewish culture) I don't think you should agree to raise your children Jewish. At least not without getting more information about exactly what that means. [/quote]

I agree. Both my parents are Jewish but my mother never had a religious education growing up and it wasn't important to her. And she made that pretty plain to us kids. It was important to my dad so it caused a lot of conflict until he finally realized that if he wanted us to have any religious knowledge, it was on him to provide it. Mom would take us to and from Hebrew school and that was it. It was Dad who took us to synagogue, explained the holidays, planned the holidays, did Shabbat, etc. Mom cooked but only because he wanted her to. She hasn't set foot in a synagogue in years except for weddings and bnai mitzvot and she's happy that way. And if that's how it was for our family in which both parents were born and raised Jewish (at least culturally in my mom's case), I can only imagine how much harder it is when one spouse comes from a different religious tradition -- especially a tradition in which the spouse is active.

OP, I think another poster gave sound advice to attend some services and see what the community is like, maybe talk to some people who have converted if a rabbi can put you in touch. [/quote]

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