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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this breaks my heart for your daughter. My parents don't know their grand kids at all because they too are don't traveling. My sister had three of her four children while living in New Zealand and my parents saw them twice in 6 years--when they came back to the US briefly. It has been seven years since they returned and my parents have seen them twice in that time. I have almost two year old twins--my mom saw them for a week when my dd had her first surgery and hasn't seen them since. My father has never met them. I live an easy flight away--as does my sister. Meanwhile, they know my DH'S family even though they live in CA and Oregon. They come and visit us. It is hard for us to travel to see them because my DD's medical issues. My sister has four kids and plane tickets for 6 is prohibitive. [b]You should think about it now what kind of relationship you have with your adult children[/b]. They won't always be able to visit you and they will want to share their lives with you. I do have friends whose parents wash their hands of them once they are adults--wont see them, talk to them and happy to finally have their lives back. Think twice about this. [/quote]

Perhaps  adult children should consider how involved they'd like their parents to be with them and their children before they decide to move thousands of miles away.

It's something SH and I considered fully when we decided to move away and one of the reasons we  moved back.[/quote]

Not every parent lives in an area where "adult children" can grow a career beyond waiting tables at Denny's. [/quote]

More DCUM closed mindedness. Your sister didn't move to New Zealand because she couldn't have a career in the states she moved because she wanted to be posh and tell everyone she was living on the other side of the world the same is true for you. You do didn't need two cars and 6 figure incomes you wanted it and you wanted to brag to your flyover friends you had made it in the city. Spare me the dramatics [/quote]

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