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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of superficial talk here..makes me sad that so many marriages are seemingly based upon little else than attraction.

My marriage is much much deeper that that I am very fit (a runner) but my H has gained about 30 lbs over the last 5-7 years. I can honestly say I dont love him one iota less than I did when he was 180 lbs and super fit about 8 years ago. 
Do I think he looks better thinner? Of course but I love him as much if not more.....it is so beyond looks.

My own sister has gained quite a bit of weight, and she is now losing it (WW) she is not doing it for her husband as much as she is for herself.

For anyone who would feel threatened or concerned about their spouse and their attraction to them over losing looks, weight gain, aging...your marriage needs a serious recheck.
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You could not be more wrong. DH and I are both fit and healthy, it's part of what physically attracted us to each other.  That, and the fact that we care enough and have enough respect for ourselves not to treat our bodies like garbage. If one of us suddenly put on a ton of weight, or stopped showering regularly, or brushing teeth, outside of an illness, of course it would impact our relationship. We'd still love each other and stay married, but it would definitely impact our attraction to each other, and also signal that something had fundamentally changed. That's totally fine if your relationship isn't that but don't come in telling the rest of us that we need to check our relationships. We're good thanks.[/quote]

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