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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You cannot reason with the righteous victims in this thread.  They are never, ever going to do anything but blast that poster, because their own DH/DW hurt them, so they resort to inane analogies to theft and on and on.[/quote]

Apparently!  [/quote]

Indeed. I posted about the small, non-harmful actions that spiral into affairs, and I am also one of the "victims" of cheating. I am reconciled with my DH, who had an EA with a coworker, and it did indeed start innocently enough.

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You are wrong. Those "small, non-harmful actions" are not "non-harmful" because the person doing them knows full well they are deliberately heading down the road to wrongdoing. Your husband was not "innocent" when he started that EA. What he did with her is called SEDUCTION. You don't start a seduction in the bedroom with your clothes off. You start it loooong before that, with a series of "small, non-harmful actions" that gradually escalate and that make it hard for her to say no to any particular "small, non-harmful" step.[/quote]

Oh, come on. Who said HE seduced HER?  usually it is a two way street that is welcomed by both parties, regardless of who makes the first move. They were both seduced -- by each other, by circumstances, by a fantasy. That plus it as an EA, not PA.

Stop seeing life in black and white.[/quote]

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