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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The person who wants her child to wait until he's 25 to have a beer is the same person who will want to pick out her child's first house, his spouse, and to name all the grandchildren.  Did you also choose his major and his college?  You sound like you have some boundary issues.[/quote]

Not really.  But, to answer your questions:

I would prefer that my son not drink much before the age of 25.  He knows that.  He knows the reasons.  The rest is up to him.

Did not choose his college or major, but did help with with the selection process for his school because I am paying $200K+ of my hard-earned money for him to be there, and a 17yo is not sufficiently mature to make a decision of that magnitude on his own.

He is nowhere near buying a house, marrying, or having children, but I will not have any involvement in any of that, unless he asks me to.[/quote]

If he is living independently, away from home, on a college campus at 17 he must be very mature and impervious to peer pressure - that is really good![/quote]

He is 19 now - 17 when we were looking at colleges.

He is very mature and largely impervious to peer pressure.  He loves facts and data.  He knows what the science says about drinking while your brain is still developing, and I am pretty sure that for the most part he makes choices in accordance with that knowledge.[/quote]

So if the drinking age was suddenly lowered to 19 today he could manage to go to a sports bar and watch a game, play some darts with friends without getting totally wasted, right?  Your boy sounds like mine ;).[/quote]

He could, but probably wouldn't, because of brain development.  He would order a club soda.  :)

He has told me that if recreational marijuana were legalized in Maryland or the state where he attends college, he would try it, but only after turning 25, because of brain development issues.

There are alcoholism and addiction issues in my family and like the PP, we have emphasized that the earlier you start drinking or doing drugs, the higher the likelihood of addiction and abuse.[/quote]

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