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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with everyone that you should have no problem cashing the child cps.  If by some chance you have a problem at your bank, you can sign a standard form that allows you to specify an alternate name you go by.  People who have odd unrelated (to their actual names) nicknames or use a stage name or otherwise have an alias they are known by, do this all the time.  Once you have this form on record, the bank should have no additional problems cashing a check.

The other issue is your choice to make your name a battle with your in-laws.  I understand that you chose to keep your name and I respect that.  However, there are many older folks still stuck with the concept that a wife takes the husband's name and they are not going to change.  You can't make them change .  You can accept that they'll call you by your husband's name and move on, or you can make it a family battle and immediately create tension anytime you encounter your in-laws.  This is your choice.  Many choose to not make this a battle, and move on.  But ultimately, you are the only one who is going to suffer from this negative energy created by  being affronted by this.  No one else will care as much about this issue as you.
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OMG NO!!!

Why is it that she has to accept what someone will call her???  I find that disgustingly disrespectful.  It is like when you are in a guest in someone's house, you follow what THEY set.  If they don't take off their shoes inside their home even though you hate wearing shoes inside, you follow their request.  
YOU call someone what THEY set to be called.  [/quote]

Please refer to me as: "[b]His[/b] Royal Majesty and Defender of the Empire".....

yes, you have the right to demand to be called whatever you want. Likewise, others have the right to call you whatever they want. [/quote]

Ah, this explains so much. Thanks for the mansplaining. Maybe one day you'll try this thing called empathy.[/quote]

Sure. Hopefully one day you'll try this thing called logic and reason.

Hint:  You're talking to multiple posters in this thread. [/quote]

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