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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op stated that she will fwd emails after 24 hours with the off base hope that it might 'jeopardize their career and advancement opputunitues'. That's bullshit.
Moms- accept your kids. Please. And accept yourself. Then you can let go of the anger.

Peace [/quote]

I've re-read the thread and didn't find the quote you cited.  This is the closest thing I found - a lot different than what you imply. Yet, another illustration of why a paper trail is so important.

[i] Honestly, I don't care if you laugh at me; it just reflects your lack of professionalism. I can assure you that supervisors above you take note of your lack of response and snickering and it is a detriment to your career progress and opportunities. [/i][/quote]

PP, thanks for defending me.  I am not OP.  I definitely do not elevate non-responses in order to get the non-responder hoping that someone's career will be jeopardized, but I do find that the non-responders are often quite willing to carry on and do things that jeopardize their career on their own instead of taking the lifeline they have been thrown when I politely raise a question about something that has gone wrong.

As for "accepting" myself and my kid, I whole-heartedly accept us both.  I accept that my kid is a gifted/high IQ child with learning disabilities.  I accept that my GT/LD child needs some changes to the classroom experience to be able to access the high level of instruction that he is capable of.  I accept that I know better than anyone what my child needs and is capable of, because I am the one who interacts with him for the most number of hours per week.  I am the one that has read and knows in detail his entire  10 year developmental history, neuropsychological testing and academic history.  I accept myself, and I accept that many others will mis-read my support for my son as "denial" or "bitchiness" or "angry" or "helicopter mom".

What I will not accept is someone who has little knowledge of my son telling me that he is "stupid" or "lazy" or "unmotivated".  I know better than anyone how hard he is working to compensate for his learning differences.  I will not accept a teacher who refuses to provide accommodations or specialized instruction per the IEP.  I will not accept the judgment of an IEP team that implies that the reason my child is not on grade level is that he is not able, particularly when his neuropsychological report indicates otherwise and when the school has consistently failed to provide adequate specialized instruction.

What I will not accept is teachers and IEP team members who choose to label me instead of fixing their mistakes.  I accept myself.  I accept that I am a well-educated parent capable of reading the law, the neuroscience and the educational literature.  I accept that I am an equal at the IEP table and in my child's education.

It took me a long time to accept these things.  Early in our special education journey, I was all too willing to accept others' criticism of myself and my child and to doubt what I knew to be true.

To the PP who said, "accept yourself," if you are a teacher, I feel very sorry for your students.  There are a small minority of teachers who choose to blame their own failures on their students.  They say to themselves, "I taught it.  He didn't learn it.  He must be stupid.  It is so sad that he can't accept himself and his parents can't accept him."  When you are a teacher with this perspective, you are failing some of the minds in your classroom and you are negatively affecting their lifelong trajectory.  That is a tragedy for which you should feel very ashamed. [/quote]

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