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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with a lot of the above posters about your financial situation. Maybe he is planning to pay off some of your debt as a gift. Frankly, if someone would do that for ME, that would be better than any vacation!!!

I make what you do, but I don't live in the DC area. (Rust Belt, actually.) Even with an easier cost of living, I only take ONE vacation per year, that my fiancé and I split the costs on, and is within driving distance of our home. To have to save up for months and months and use up our tax returns on one trip is just downright silly. (We both also subscribe to the "it's not where you're at, it's who you're with" philosophy and we would have fun together even if our vacation was staying home together and not going to a beach!). If you need to go to some exotic location to actually be having fun with your significant other, you need to really examine your relationship.

Maybe he is asking for an expensive present because you've already played it off like you have all this money to spend on him? Are you completely truthful about your financial situation with him? I don't think you need to pour over each other's tax returns and paychecks but he should have a pretty solid idea of what's in your budget. If you're giving off the vibe that you DO have money and CAN afford that, that may be why he asked for it. It's really okay to say to him, things have changed with my medical bills and I just can't afford this gift right now.

And I'm sorry you have medical issues but you're a grown up and no one needs to be spoiled. You're being a complete brat about all of this to be quite honest. You're not a princess.[/quote]

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