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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was in a similar situation with my now-DH (He made a lot and had tons in savings, I made little and had crippling amounts of debt). My DH has worked hard his entire life to get to where he is financially and was extremely concerned that I would destroy his savings and investments, and rightfully so. I had to prove to him that I didn't have unreasonable expectations about money and had to work hard at paying off a lot of my debt before he offered to help out.

You also entered a covert contract with your fiance- since you paid for an extravagant vacation, you expect him to do the same. Stop that. He didn't sign that contract. Your life will be much happier if you stop expecting people to repay you when you do something nice for them.

You have to get your finances under control for YOUR well being. No more wasting money on trips or gifts. And honestly, if I were in your position, I'd call off the wedding because there's no way you can afford half of a wedding. Don't be pissed about it, just a cheerful "given I'm going to have upcoming medical expenses, I think spending money on a wedding isn't a wise choice". It is also fair of you to ask him for an answer on whether or not he's going to help with your medical bills, but don't be emotional or demanding about it. You are just asking for your own plans, not to manipulate him. [/quote]

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