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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Actually, if I had young kids and a relative who didn't "do" Santa, I wouldn't celebrate with those relatives.  Because there is no way in hell you're getting out of there with your kids' belief in Santa intact.  [/quote]

[b]Take it from those of us whose kids don't celebrate Christmas. Their belief system is strong enough to manage interacting with kids who don't share their beliefs-- and live in a culture that celebrates different holidays. [/b]It is sweet that you want to shield your kids from any contrasting views, but understand that that's a position of privilege. [/quote]

How would your young kids have handled a similar aged cousin sleeping over at Christmas Eve and Santa leaving presents for the cousins but not for them?

Knowing how young kids operate, I imagine this woukd be exceptionally difficult for young kids, even from families with strong belief systems.

I think this is going to be even more pronounced since OP said this is the first year her brother is going all out on no Santa.[/quote]

I'm guessing this is going to be a traditional Christmas where everyone will get multiple presents. Unless someone calls attention to it, no ones going to notice who got presents from whom. Really, you are overthinking it.

Are you saying these kids think that all kids get presents from Santa and celebrate Christmas?  They've never met kids who don't believe in Santa? "Some kids believe in Santa and some kids don't."  Done.

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No.

Other kids not getting Santa presents is not an issue.

Similar aged young kids waking up in the same house on Christmas morning and only half of them getting Santa presents while the other kids do not get Santa presents is a big deal.[/quote]

And so in this scenario, your concern lies with the kids who are getting *more* presents than having empathy for the kids who are getting fewer presents but aren't allowed to say that Santa isn't real for fear of destroying the "magic" of Christmas?

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Not at all.

That poster said it would be no big deal for her kids not to have Santa visit, which makes perfect sense if everyone is waking in their own home Christmas morning.

I am asking if she thinks they would have been okay with it if they were young kids staying at the same house with cousins who are being visited by Santa.

Based on several turning this direct and simple question around into a bunch of spin off arguments, I bet you know that your preschool/early elementary kids would indeed be upsetby this scenario.

The simple solution is for the two families with very different Christmas traditions to sleep in different locations that night (hotel, grandma's, otyer sibling's house, or their own home.)

This does not diminish family love. It does not minimize Jesus' birth celebration or make OPs and her husband un-Christian heathens, it is not an argument for atheism or secularism and it does not destroy the meaning of Christmas.

It is the simplest and most thoughtful and respectful solution to honor both families' traditions.

The silly and not in the spirit of Christmas posts are the ones telling OP that any minute spent away from her extended family so she can practice her nuclear family's traditions means she is putting stuff before family. [/quote]

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