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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They are often rational actors.  The marriage is bad, no sex for example.  The cost of divorce might be hight--financial and loosing custody of the kids.  By cheating they can have their cake and eat it too.

If it works out they win.  If it doesn't, they are no worse off than if they just got divorced.[/quote]

Except that’s not true for most men.  They don’t want a divorce.  They often are still having sex at home, but her greedy and want some variety as they face down middle age.  They get caught and life implodes and they cause great hurt to those they love.  They seriously fk up a good thing.[/quote]

Not sure I agree.  I see many cases where the men are just not happy in the marriage...they would rather take their chances getting outside of marriage what their marriage lacks--sex.  If they get caught, so be it.  They don't feel like they lost out.  If they get away with it. they come out ahead.

For wealthy men especially, the decision calculus makes cheating rational if they are deeply unhappy...better than not seeing their kids and loosing 1/2 the money.[/quote]

+1 [/quote]

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