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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I turned18 in October of my my senior year of high school, 19 as I began my first year of college. I was off-age at the time, 20+ years ago. I remember every birthday as being " why are you an entire year older than us?" Yay for birthdays.

I was held back by my mother, who was anxious and projected her problems on me, and against recommendations of the school. I had an exceptionally high IQ, undiagnosed ADHD (as in, not diagnosed until I was middle-aged, since ADHD didn't exist for smart girls in the 70s/80s), and trauma and social problems from being raised by my mentally ill mother.

So, I do get touchy about this subject. Some of you moms out there  who are hell-bent on this idea might be like my mom. Personality disordered with no empathy for child, only concerned with the social/status implications of your child doing well. Maybe you think your child looks good next to kids in the grade younger. Maybe all that matters is that your child does competitively well, next to kids who aren't the appropriate competition. You don't realize kids know the birthdays/ages very well. They are obsessed with those details.

I would have been both smarter and more socially awkward no matter what age group. I became socially competent and even successful by middle/high school, but still had to deal with the insecurity of being assumed weird for being a year older.

I don't care anymore. It's not my fight. I was damaged by mentally ill mother who held me back. Your experiences may vary.[/quote]

Turning 18 in Oct of senior year is the norm now. Your advice is in appropriate and outdated. Your issues go way beyond being redshirted. Don't you see that? Your mother would have been the same no matter when you graduated.[/quote]

A child who turns 18 in October is a child who was sent to school on time, and not red-shirted. That child is just on the older side of the grade that they are supposed to be in. That child's peers, also not red shirted, but born in the summer let's say, would not turn 18 until after they graduate. [/quote]

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