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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So besides a few people saying they know/heard of a bridezilla complaining they didn't attend their wedding, almost exclusively all the hate on this thread is coming from parents who hate childfree weddings. Nonstop insults, insinuating they are mentally ill or bad people, yikes. It really makes the parents pushing for their children to be included look entitled, petty and rude. [/quote] Yep. Pretty much.[/quote] 100%. They keep lashing out at everyone in these made up scenarios and calling people bridezillas as if most of the people here haven't already been married years. This isn't some retro version of The Knot.[/quote] +1. Its pretty obvious the ones married before 2010 are the ones still using the term “bridezilla.”[/quote] Someone suggested “gaping narcissist” earlier and I’m good with that. It’s gender neutral too, so also covers grooms. [/quote] The narcissists are the angry parents.[/quote] Thinking your wedding is a special day all about you is inherently narcissistic. You might think that narcissism is justified, but it's a simple fact that having a party to celebrate yourself where you prioritize what you want is self centered. [/quote] Well, that is literally what a wedding is. It's about a couple joining together for a life together. And shockingly (to only you, not anyone else) is that why yes, it is about the bride and groom and what they envision for their wedding day. When you get married, you also get to choose what you want for your day. Same for everyone else. [/quote] This is what YOU think a wedding is. It's not a universal belief, and it's a narcissistic one. It's about ME or US, not the community or the family. The alternative is perhaps considered old fashioned, but it wasn't that long ago that brides and grooms did effectively no planning for their weddings. Weddings were set by family and local traditions. That's how my wedding was.[/quote] yeah and it wasn't "too long ago" that weddings were arranged and dowry's were paid for the women. Most of us would prefer not to go back to that time. Hint: You are entitled to your thoughts for your wedding and are free to invite every kid you have ever met if that makes you happy. But you are NOT entitled to define what a wedding is for a society or anyone else. It's not "narcissistic" for a couple getting married to want to plan and have the wedding they want. They typically are the ones paying for it nowadays (and even if they are not paying, it is their wedding, and normal adults/parents do not feel entitled to control their kids) If you are offended, you are able to respond "no" and move on. [/quote] The person who sounds offended here is you. I just pointed out that there are other models of what a wedding is and that, of the ones that exist, the "it's my special day" model is the most narcissistic.[/quote] No, it's you who sounds like a control freak. Allowing the couple getting married to choose and make the day about them is not "narcissistic". It literally is their day. Yeah it wasn't like that 100 years ago. But heck, 100 years ago women couldn't vote. Even 50 years ago, women could not have a Credit card without a husband signing for it or daddy (if not married). So yes things were different, but that doesn't make them a good thing or "right". Once again, you are free to envision whatever the hell type of wedding you want for your wedding. You can even do it for your kids, if they are so inclined to allow you to be "in control". But for normal people, a wedding is defined by the couple getting married. It's not about what other people want or think is right. Those others can choose for their own wedding when the time comes. And just like a birthday party is about the birthday kid (or person). Nothing wrong with that. If you have issues with that or a wedding being about the couple, it's you who has issues and needs to adjust. [/quote]
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