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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many people do not see it as relevant as you see it. They believe it is just sex. Why not? Taking the appropriate precautions etc.[/quote]

Those people are broken. If it’s just sex, have the courage to tell the person you love and own it. Find a match that agrees — they’re out there. The act of having sex is not so much the issue as the deceit required to do it. You lose credibility. You lose relevance. You don’t get to decide how other people interpret betrayal. If you understand and actually respect an opinion outside of your own, even if you don’t agree with it, you have some level of self-awareness around how it can hurt the person that is in love with you, and trusts you with a deep level of vulnerability.

If you cannot tell that person you aren’t a safe space, you’re not in any position to talk about whether it is relevant to any view; you’re selfishly only preoccupied with your view. Which means you cannot really expand your consciousness and love the way all people have the capacity to do. [/quote]

Well, I see your point. That said, many people are not 100% transparent. If they think that their partner will not know it, that it is occasional, and, again, that it is not such a big deal, they will do it.[/quote]

Those people are untrustworthy and not a “partner” at all. They are cowardly, deceitful, selfish, and manipulative. If it feels good to be this way, they are no partner of mine. Cheating should cause distress because of the lies and dishonesty. The person who lets it roll off their back like swear has serious issues. Everyone doesn’t think like that, Larla.[/quote]

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