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[quote=Anonymous]So far I think the most interesting thing about this thread is the incredulity that many posters have about the OP and her boyfriend's ability to have genuine feelings for each other.

Y'all have a very romantic, idealized understanding of human affection. I hope that stems from having wonderful marriages, rather than overindulgence in Disney Princess movies.

I do not find it impossible to believe that the OP's boyfriend cares about OP, enjoys spending time with her, and does not mind the transactional part of their relationship. I do not have a hard time believing that there are other aspects to their relationship than sex and money. I also don't find it all that difficult to imagine the OP as being fairly content with her life the way it is right now, or her parents not being very interested in her life, or her not being particularly damaged or having trauma in her past.

People seem to need to believe that anyone who would engage in this sort of behavior is a sociopath who is unable to feel anything for anyone. I just don't think that. I think that it's possible for a man engaged in a multi-year affair to care about his wife, his mistress and his children. I think it's certainly possible for the OP to be fine with her paid-for apartment and her vacations, interested in her boyfriend but not his family, and still understand that showing up to his funeral and making a scene would be cruel to his family and unwilling to engage in that cruelty.

People have a complicated range of emotions. It's not as easy as "sleeps with someone's husband --> never respects anything else ever as long as she lives" or "accepts money for sex --> is automatically a horrible human being with nothing else to offer".[/quote]

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