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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately, for me, it’s a high. Knowing that a woman, other than your significant other, wants you and will do anything in bed for you, is a high. Yes, it sucks and I have a major character flaw. I’m pretty messed up over it and no one knows that about me. [/quote]

This is the best summary. Cheaters like the way the AP makes them feel about themselves.[/quote]
I’m the OP and yeah, it sucks. I want to fix this flaw. Is there a therapist that specializes in whatever is going on inside my head?[/quote]

It’s a narcissistic trait.  The need for great amounts of external validation.  Healthy people don’t require this to feel good about themselves.

See a therapist.[/quote]

And learn to be alone. Do you just jump from one relationship to the next? Are you familiar with the term limerence? [/quote]
Doing some reflection, I wasn’t a cheater until a girl I was dating for years ended it. I was faithful with her the entire time we were together. Once that ended, it triggered something and I became who I became. 
No, I don’t jump from one relationship to another and I was alone for eight years. I enjoyed life, lived free and did what I wanted to do. Call it selfish? I just looked up limerence. 
I’m definitely going to seek out a therapist.[/quote]

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