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[quote=Anonymous]This might be true, but a quarter of the class is not a majority of the class or even close.  There are still a ton of other boys to socialize with if this group is not all inclusive or friendly to a particular boy or parent.  Not to mention that I find it hard to believe that 20 boys from one class all live in two adjacent neighborhoods, maybe 10, but not 20 (or a quarter).

In addition, hopefully this child has other friends in the neighborhood and the larger community that they can socialize with (and trick or treat with). It would be hard on a kid's developing ego to be let down all the time if their only "friend" group is not all inclusive all the time (for whatever reason).  Again, real friends would not do this. Time to move on and encourage a new friend group for both the child's and parent's well being.

I also might add that it is an important life lesson to learn to cope with minor disappointments like not always being invited to all the parties, dinners, vacations, meetings, etc.  As adults, life is not always all inclusive and people do things with different groups and subgroups. Healthy adults have multiple groups and communities they are part of - old friends, new friends, close friends, acquaintances, work friends, spouse friends, neighborhood friends, family friends, etc. Adults need to have strong enough egos to be able to handle any perceived slight (whether real or not) so that something like not getting invited to a party does not rock their world.  In addition, it is extremely important that they foster strong egos in their children so they to can handle the inevitable small disappointments in life.[/quote]

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