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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank goodness Op and her spouse don’t put their kids in preschool or regular school. Now they can go visit grandma for Jan and Feb each year. Good stuff. [/quote]

Op here. You're making trouble. Our kids are toddler and preschool age. We pay tuition when we are away and we don't do this trip every year. A lot of internationals take a month-long trip but they do it every 2-5 years. I stayed overnight at SIL's apartment and we had a blast. It's not dusty and has more space. I could definitely stay in an apartment like this for a month. I like that they have balconies because I feel less isolated. I think part of the problem is the feeling of being in a compound. DH's mom's house is also very small without enough seating options and a lot dustier. I'm so happy we came to SIL's. I also got a chance to meet another Bengali family. The kids have been watching a cricket match from the balcony. [/quote]

That's great! Can you go out to the area the balcony overlooks or is it the same issue where it's no-go? I feel like the edge of a cricket field would be fantastic to watch life go by. And there's actual grass?[/quote]

There is grass. Here are some pictures.

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Dh's family has been amazing. Every time a new family member visits they give me a gift. Usually, it's a dress, bed sheets, or gold jewelry! I have 20+ gifts. At SIL's her MIL gave me cash yesterday and it felt a little awkward but I didn't want to refuse because culturally I think that's considered rude. We had biryani yesterday and I noticed the helpers were eating at the same time and same table as and sister in laws MIL and FIL. Since there were so many people they had the guests eat first I.e. dh, me, our kids, and my MIL, and after we finished the others had their food. It also seems to be a custom that women stand close to their husband while he sits making sure hes is happy with the food before they eat.  [/quote]

How are you drawing conclusions based on the one family you are observing, like wildlife?[/quote]

I am stating my observations. I don't recall saying all middle-class families in Bangladesh are like this. Someone else posted a picture of a Bangladeshi maid sitting beside her boss. If you have something else to contribute, then do it.

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“It also seems to be a custom that women stand close to their husband while he sits making sure he is happy with the food before they eat.”[/quote]

Op here. That's what I have been seeing at DH's house and my SIL's. Both of my SILs are this way with their husbands. They don't stand the entire time. They also both have babies they are caring for and seating is limited. [/quote]

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