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You know what else makes things hard for women in the workforce?  [b]Repeated pregnancies and maternal leave.  Regardless of whether the woman returns, that can perpetuate negative stereotypes about career women and force extra work on the coworkers left behind.[/b]  Would you also suggest that because those are problematic for the workforce and how women are judged, we should avoid having second/third/fourth babies?

Look, whether male or female, we have to make reproductive and lifestyle decisions based on what works for our individual marriages and lives.  If my third pregnancy negatively impacts my coworker, oh well.  If my leaving to stay at home for a few years negatively impacts how women in my career are viewed, well oh well, yet again.[/quote]

Good lord, you are making our point. It takes two people to have a baby. Two people should be taking parental leave of identical duration, but that doesn't happen until women are holding the purse and are pervasive in the boardroom, in the C-suite, and in federal/state/local government. Some people would say it is a chicken-or-egg situation where the workforce needs to change before women are able to comfortably stay in droves, but as a PP said, history has shown us that it's not actually that complicated. It will take generations of us being [b]un[/b]comfortable and not making the "easy" choice. And those of us who have more than enough money to stay at home -- which is what this threat is about -- are also those uniquely positioned (either because of wealth, education, or position) to make significant headway.[/quote]

Two to make a baby, one to carry it and recover from the delivery.  Women shouldn’t restrict their pregnancies because of that impact on other female workers, and they shouldn’t avoid staying at home if that’s what they want to do, out of some misplaced fear of the impact on other women.[/quote]

Look if my daughter or my son wants to stay at home I’ll support them. It’s 100 percent true everyone gets to make the decision that’s right for them. But doing my part to make the options available to both of them better is a factor in working for me, and that’s the original question. When I interviewed for post docs I got asked a lot of questions I was too naive to realize were probably illegal and definitely discriminatory but the truth is when any one has been trained for years and had limited resources poured into their development and then they decide to leave the workforce, the people who have invested in them feel burned and they try to avoid letting that happen again. That’s just reality. Again you can make your own choices but they do have repercussions. [/quote]

That's life. People we invest in drop out for many, many reasons. A child may or may not be one of them for some parents; for other people it will be a catastrophic illness or injury; death; needing to move for a spouse/aging parent/better job offer, etc. No one is obligated to work forever no matter what the investment. [/quote]

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