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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think in real life dawn dorland was completely not self aware, needy AF and like the most annoying acquaintance in the world.  None of that is a crime.  Sonya Larson and friends twisted her into something she was not, and built that in their minds to be truth.  I get dawns reaction to the story because the woman in that story was awful and I think in sonyas mind it was who dawn was because she was grating and annoying for like half a decade to her friend group. Sonya played nice with her for a long time but eventually was like whatever this woman doesn’t matter and I will skewer her in this story.  Dawn then had a huge reaction and did things like tried to take her down relentlessly in a creepy stalker way.  If you go to the kidney gate Twitter honestly dawns behavior is Trent less and unstable.  Sonya was an a hole throughout and ruined her career and will probably be fired from Grub Street, which Sonya had requested in a creepy but justified letter in 2018.  Dawn seems totally nuts.   Sonya seems like a powerful jerk.   Neither wins.  [/quote]

I don't necessarily disagree with this but my problem with it is that Sonja created this situation for herself by becoming friends with Dawn. She's trying to cover it up now by acting like they were just acquaintances but it's obvious from the reports of their friendship before the kidney donation that they were actual friends. As in spent time at one another's homes, exchanged gifts, showed up for each other in times of need -- friends. At some point Sonja decided she didn't want to be friends with Dawn, which is fine -- we've all been there. But then she wanted to pretend the friendship never existed and do something sneaky and cruel (write a take-down short story about Dawn and use Dawn's own words in the story). You can't do that and expect a former friend to be like "oh, okay, no big deal." Dawn might in fact be annoying AF but that move by Sonja is stupid AF. Because human beings have feelings and that's mean and of course Dawn was going to be hurt. So just... don't? I really don't understand why it was important to Sonja to do this when she could have just written a different story or hidden the fact that Dawn was her inspiration. She's a writer. That shouldn't have been hard.

I think one lesson to come out of this whole mess is that no matter how much you dislike someone, you can't just do cruel things to them and expect them to take it. That's not how people work, that's not how the world works. If you do sneaky mean things to people, get ready for them to do sneaky mean things back. I don't think what Dawn chose to do was great either, but she was responding to a something really hurtful and I tend to have empathy for that. It is hard to make good choices from a place of extreme hurt and humiliation. And it would take a very secure, emotionally strong person not to feel hurt by that. Dawn was not that, and Sonja knew it.

Sonja instigated this whole thing, and for no real reason. As the New Yorker review points out -- the story she produces isn't even that good and is specifically weakened by the fact that it was clearly written out of anger/annoyance with the Dawn/Rose character.

These women are both damaged and insecure. Dawn channeled that into donating a kidney to a stranger. Sonja channeled it into writing a mediocre short story as a take down of Dawn.[/quote]

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