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1) A 22yo girl knows of a dozen men's sex life but a 40+ yo man cannot know a hundred? I play sports (golf, hunt, fish, ride motorcycles) and do lots of guy stuff around other guys. Agreed we do not talk "emotions" but trust me during a 6 hour round in a golf cart the topic of sex (in terse binary terms: having it or not) often DOES come up! I am fine if you do not believe that.

2) YOU were the one who described these men's wives as being HAPPY to have sex. I merely challenge your credibility for using that descriptor. Now your reply goes in a totally different direction as to whether or not men should be content having sex with an UN-happy wife. That was never my point, so you are side tracking and/or back tracking on your original claim.

3) Your sample is an unbelievable collection of wives HAPPY to have sex with husbands who don't want it. If you encountered 12 out of 12 guys in that situation, please go buy a lottery ticket.

Agreed: [b]some[/b] cheating husbands are simply bored despite a wife [b]willing[/b] to have sex. My beef is that you (and others here) hyper focus on that small population while skipping right over the majority case where wife is UN-willing. This is just being ignorant of the mindset of a cheater.[/quote]

LOL, are you comparing conversations between lovers to conversations between friends? Male friends to begin with?  OK, if you admit having sex with a hundred plus men (like I was having sex with a dozen plus men), then I believe you that you DO know about their sex lives. Somehow I don't think that's what you  meant!

Since you're picking on the term "happy", use "does not object" instead.   Again - does that really change things?  Now not only do you have to NOT object, you have to be giddy with delight or it doesn't count?  You know that female libido is reactive in most cases anyway, so a wife who does not object does not reject her husband (rejection being the common complaint.)    "Does not object" doesn't mean "unhappy", it means "if you initiate, I have no objection." [/quote]

So clueless about men! [b]I am not even talking about FRIENDS ... merely regular golf acquaintances. The basic either/or question is it "sex with wife"[/b] vs "he has a girlfriend" is the usual extent of this topic. No reason to lie about it, no honor or dis-honor either way, and I don't need to have gay sex to get an honest answer. Kind of like does he play Titlist vs Callaway balls, it is just a very common topic that comes up and we don't judge or dwell on the answer.

Since you have withdrawn the original claim of "happy" instead now those wives "did not object" to sex....  that restores SOME credibility to your story. The other half of our disbelief is that 12 out of 12 men did not want sex with a willing wife. Again, the DCUM readership knows better: witness the constant complaints here about husband wanting sex.[/quote]

I just asked my husband whether he would discuss with his basketball or golf ACQUAINTANCES whether he is or they are having sex with their wives.  He looked at me like I had two heads.  His exact words were "what kind of loser would discuss this with other men?"

I can't even imagine how this conversation would go with an acquaintance.  How many holes today? Having sex with wife or not?

So weird.[/quote]

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